Ouch--why didn't the co-pres just pull a gun and start shooting folks down...That is one war you DO NOT need going on. I think though I wouldn't continue to highlight the gap--but if possible make sure that your information and support options are available to both working and stay at homers. It is true that more stay at homers can usually assist more routinely but shoot, I have parents that schedule days off to support the school programs. I don't think we're special in that. I would suggest you consider an outreach program of support emails that go to parents at work and at home to keep them informed of opportunities to help and in general what's going on. Get a great website going on, perhaps you have a parent that works with more flexibility that would be willing to be a part of planning meetings for her/his inputs on how to reach out. You may want to consider a "take your mommy/daddy to school" kind of day where the parents take a couple of hours and come speak about what they do with the PTO sponsoring a muffins and donuts thing before that morning. Highlight donations of working and non working parents routinely in your newsletters and make sure that folks hear A LOT that part of the reason you do what you do as stay at homers is so that all the children can receive the benefit of all of the parents efforts. There's lots of way to encorporate parents working outside the home without highlighting what they cannot support. Best of luck...
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Our school has a big problem. The PTO Co-Presidents are stay-at-home moms, as are many of the chairpeople. (Ours is an affluent midwestern school district.) The meetings are scheduled during the day, except for one token evening meeting per semester. One of the Co-Presidents even said out loud, at a meeting last spring, that the working parents add nothing to our school. As a result of that comment, and her general discrimination against working parents, the number of PTO volunteers has decreased. Two of our major committees don't even have chairs. The problems have escalated to the point that the principal had to put a note in the newsletter that everyone should get along and do their part. How embarrassing! Any advice on how to bridge the divide between the stay-at-home moms and the working moms, before an all-out war erupts?