I spoke w/ the Principal who says to hang in there. Great advice until I got a couple of calls tonight. Seems like people supposedly feel I am too in control and that I am too organized which intimidates people. (this wasnt a problem when I figured out fast that the previous Treasurer was skimming money and put a stop to her methods and got rid of her-but oh how soon they forget the good stuff I guess) They plan on making things hard for me. Can you imagine? When I asked for reasons I was told there werent any. Sounds logical to me. LOL Seems like I've been in way too long and they feel my time should end - but only have after plan the last dance, the carnival, the volunteer outing and the teachers luncheon for them. Sorry fat chance there. Who do these people think they are? I know - they are the ones who can make you or break you really. I mean there is power in numbers and they all want to jump on the bandwagon together. I had another call today wanting to know if I plan on running in the election - she's trying to figure out if she should and feels if I'm not then she has a chance. Do these people not realize they're not in high school - we're supposed to be adults? What happened to working for the good of the school/students? Why is everyone more concerned with themself and their own agendas? I was also told if I resign now it may force the Principal to dissolve the organization and that decision will be my fault. Do they not realize that their actions are causing the problem here? Or is this all my fault?
Remind the principal she is not doing what was agreed upon and ask her if she will take care of it or if she would like you to proceed with legal action. (This always makes the pricipal do the job.) And remember, if you quit now, it will make it look like you have done something wrong. Stay and see it through. Keep in mind that this money doesn't belong to you, your group or the school, but your children as well as all the others at the school and by not following through, they will probably get cheated out of what they deserve.
The irony of commitment is that it’s deeply liberating-in work, in play, in love. The act frees you from the tyranny of your internal critic, from the fear that likes to dress itself up and parade around as rational hesitation. To commit is to remove your head as the barrier to your life. --Anne Morris
Ok maybe I'm getting paranoid but I swear the Treasurer is not answering my calls or emails to make me look bad. ( I say this knowing that one of her new friends informed me months ago that if she ever got mad at me she would make sure she did things to make me look bad. ) I have left messages asking for the account balance as well as copies of stmts that havent been received. We are also trying to plan our Spring Carnival for the end of May. I have asked for the figures so I can update our budget hoping there is extra money more things the kids would enjoy and asking opinions of what we should order/reserve- no reponse. I have suggested items to buy the teachers for teacher appreciation week, and for volunteers- no response. I was at school today - she hasnt picked up info nor has she turned the checkbook and ledger in to the school secretary as we had decided. I am at my wits end here. I know that she and her group have started rumors that we havent been doing our job - no thanks to her thats true to an extent. I have written a letter of resignation but have not sent it. My Co Prez told me today she is leaving. As much as I enjoy what I do I dont want to work with this kind of behavior - any time I complain its turned around as if I or someone else have done something. I just wonder if I should get out while the getting is good!? I cant plan anything without the info and help - when it all falls apart it will come down on my head as the groups leader. HELP!!!
Eagles--if you're happier being out, do it. I already went through highschool--I don't need to do it again. Once I realized that that's what a lot of this behavior was I got a much better attitude and tolerate a lot less BS. Of course I'm not as "popular" as some of the Mommies, but I'm certainly happier with myself and at least feel like a responsible adult. [img]tongue.gif[/img]
BTW--I know many would disagree, but I would definitely let everyone know what's going on. While you're doing it try to be fair (acknowledge that you can see why they think what they do, but you just don't agree with it and give specific reasons). No finger pointing, no personal gripes--just the facts, ma'am. I feel that once you state your take on things publicly there's less gossip because you put it out there.
Our finances were really messed up until I became treasurer. We never had a budget or reports and when we were asked about spending money none of us knew if we had it to spend. That's why when our Pres resigned-thank God-I turned down being Pres because I wanted to put down at least one good year to show the next person what was expected. I also think people think it's really simple, and it is if you stay on top of it and are organized, but some people just don't and aren't. Keep us informed.
The irony of commitment is that it’s deeply liberating-in work, in play, in love. The act frees you from the tyranny of your internal critic, from the fear that likes to dress itself up and parade around as rational hesitation. To commit is to remove your head as the barrier to your life. --Anne Morris
I appreciate everyones advice. We're on Srping Break right now and I have felt so "free" the past few days not thinking much about school/PTO. I do love what I've been doing the past few years and if I resign I plan to still volunteer as needed.
I plan at our next meeting to make certain everyone is aware of the BS that is going on. I think too that the members have a right to know that the Treasurer is lacking. I have offered to help. I have extensive accounting experience though in truth its not that hard if you pay attention. When I pointed out to her that the money belongs to all of us as a PTO she got pissy and said I know that - thats when one of her friends piped up that she had seen everything. Oh boy - I can just imagine what it would be like working with these people. Rumor has it that if they screw up its a reflection on me and my leadership - guess thats true to a certain degree but hello they'll look bad too and I have 6 years under my belt w/o probelms until they came along. Maybe I'm being naive but I just dont understand why we cant do what is good for the kids/school instead of trying to see who has the most power.
