If she's already resigned -- along with her two cohorts -- there is no need to continue to make overtures. Just make certain that, at the next board meeting, their resignations are formally accepted (with a vote). Otherwise, they could rescind their resignations and come back to start this merry-go-round again. With their resignations accepted, the board has a true opportunity for a fresh start with new people.

Well, it sounds like you and your group have bent over backwards to accomodate this person and to try to work something out. It's ashame she can't put aside her needs and work as a team.

I hate to hear you say that you are going to resign, but sometimes I think we all come to a point in a situation where our mental health is more important then trying to please someone who can never be pleased. Take some time over the holiday break to get some rest and think over what you feel you really need to do here. Even if you're not President of the parent group, there are many ways you can make your children's school a great place to learn. Find your joy in some of those arenas! Best of luck to you.

You know as a final hurrah you could send her a Christmas card with a note saying you hope that the new year will bring a fresh start to your relationship, so that the children of your school will see a wonderful team of parents all working together to make their school a fun and special place to learn. Just a passive agressive thought.....

We even created new bylaws to accommodate her schedule. I was not for this because I felt like we do not make those changes for anyone else. She said that this job is just a volunteer position. Yes, that is true but we should all want to do a good job!!

I have done all of those things. We have had a meeting with the principal. I have asked her if she needs help. We had a knock down, drag out. She is hostile and refuses to basically talk to anyone but the secretary. She has brainwashed the secretary into being on her side. I just bare with as much as I can take and keep going. In January, I am going to see if someone else wants to take my job over. I am tired and just fed up. I love my children and those kids at my school. I should not have to deal with ridicule when I have spent out of my pocket, volunteered when no one else would, worked like a dog and ran up and down the road buying things for the school. I have tried to talk to this person and she is just unreasonable. The people at the school just grin and bare with her. They ask me what is wrong with her. I just say I don't know. Pray for me! I need guidance. We have a fun day for the kids at Going in May. This is the grand finale, we must have organization and lots of things for the kids to do. I am dreading it, I believe that she is going to try and sabotage that too. I think this is a personal attack against me. I promise you I have no idea what or if I have done anything to her. Right now, I really don't care. AS I KEEP SAYING IT IS ALL ABOUT THE CHILDREN AND UNTIL SHE FIGURES IT OUT GOD HELP US ALL!!

I think it's time for you to take a deep breath and have a good sit down with the person. Make yourself a list of the areas where you see problems and have others on the board do the same. Restrict the list to items that affect the ability of the group to perform functions successfully such as not completing the fundraiser receipts in timely fashion. Stay away from any personal items. Don't give her the list and say, "Here's a list of all the things we don't like." Instead sit down with her and utilize the list as a reference for yourself to make sure you clearly convey what the problems are with her performance. Ideally this should be done with the whole board present, but if that doesn't work, then maybe there are one or two other board members who would be willing to join the meeting. Perhaps you might even talk with the principal and see if he/she would act as a sort of mediator. Be straight with her, let her know that it has been a difficult year thus far, that the situation needs to change immediately, and that before the meeting ends there will be some kind of resolution to the issues. Make sure that you express that if she needs help in any areas that you are willing to jump in and give her that help-no questions asked.

Some things I'm curious about that also might give you something to think about: Is she negative only about the new programs/events your group is trying or she negative about everything? Have the new programs/events significantly added to the Treasurer's workload? When you decide to do a program/event, do all board members have a say and/or a vote on whether it gets done?

I am a very active parent. Since all of my children have been in school I have always been there to help at the school and anything else needed. I worked my way up the ladder as far as getting to be the president of the PTO this year. I am very open minded about things and I wanted to try and do a lot of things different this year. Our parent participation is low, so I wanted to try some new things. Well the treasurer we have basically sabotaged the year. She is AWFULL!!! She has done just about any and everything to make this year bad for me. She tried to make her problems PTOs problems and I would not let her. We have two new people join our board and she has basically turned them against me. We had a confrontation which was awful, I would not give her an audience to her whining about what a hard year she has had so therefore there is a good reason why it has taken her two months to write receipts for the fundraiser money. It is time for the fundraiser to come back. I said can we help you in anyway. No!!!!!!!!!she didn't want any help, but it was my fault when the money was short. I wanted her off the board, the other ladies said that we can't do without a treasurer and would not vote her off. I am stuck with this person who has not only made me mad but also our head roomparent and the principal, the secretary. Do I need to go on. This lady is awful and I am so fed up I don't know what to do. I pray for patience and that this year will go by fast. I will not lie, she has basically taken all the passion that I had away. I know that I should not let her take the passion away for what I want to do for these kids. I will do all I can for the students, but she really makes it hard. She is an accountant and she has no morals or commom sense. She even had a problem with us helping kids who cannot afford to pay to go to children's theater. My first vice and her got into a knock down, drag out because she told us we need to be careful helping all these kids. What if it was her son? Would she want us to not pay for her child to attend a program? I need advice with dealing with this person. You know that there is such a thing as an educated fool and I think I have met one.