this has happened to me.... but what they did was tell me that "sue" is going to "co-chair" this event with me next year so I can focus more time on my new baby. Whatever! Or my fav is to just start planning around the person you don't want involved.

It's almost like going back to high school thinking, how do we plan this party so Jon Jon doesn't show up!

This isn't going to be easy but I would let the Principal know, for damage control purposes and to off set any goofy rumors that may become of it.

The worst is not knowing why, I still don't know why a teacher literly avoided me when I was asked to help with plans for a major event. If she would have told me she wanted to work with this mom instead, no big deal, the whole baby thing really was..... .

Of course there is always the Donald Trump way..."You're Fired!"

[ 05-02-2004, 03:38 PM: Message edited by: mykidsmom ]

kma, you have to remember it's not a popularity contest, it's who can do the best for that committee and the school. I pi**ed off plenty of people. When I became pres. I had to get rid of people who held their spot for many years. It was time for new blood and new ideas.It was the best move for the PTA and after a few months people realized I made the best move. The children benefited greatly from it(more assemblies, better programs and less fundraising).

You may have to grow a really big set of ba**s but I have faith in you and your judgement. It's a new group and it's time for new blood and their are so many good people out there willing to help you if you give them the chance. Also remember to give people a chance to speak there mind, you may be surprise at the ideas they can bring to the table.

Bertha--please--if I were to let you go I wouldn't bother being nice! ONLY KIDDING!!!!! Please--if you ever ditched us I don't know what I'd do!!!!

This is for future reference...."Just In Case" kind of thing. I already see the potential for trouble down the road, and if I can avoid it, I'd rather. I guess two years is fair; it's just that I tend to be a control-freak, so if I'm not happy, I want it fixed NOW.

I see this as a major problem with our PTA. People are either: afraid to hurt someone's feelings, get bullied into letting someone stay on, or let someone do something despite their not being so great at it because they're a friend. I can understand to a point, because if I was running a fundraiser or program, and I loved doing it and was good at it, I'd hate to hand it over myself. BUT....

Kma- are you trying to tell me in a nice way, you're letting me go? If you wanted someone else you could've just told me.

Our committee chairs have a 1 year term, after that if we(the Officers) want them for another term we assign the committee to them . If not we explain that we want to give someone the opportunity to try it.

KMA we have a rule that a person should only chair a committee for 2 years. That way it makes it possible for others that want to be involved, have the opportunity to be, and it brings new and fresh ideas to the committee. Also, if one person chairs it the entire time their child is in your school, how successful will it be once they move on?

IMO let her know how much you appreciated all the hard work (no matter how much it really was) she did and ask if she could help the next person set up for next year, with her experience and knowledge of the committee her best asset would be in leaving a legacy of a committee that can run on for years due to her.

Maybe in "boosting" her ego more, you might be able to get more out of her.

You have a chair, which you're grateful to have because at least somebody stepped up to the plate to help out, even if they put themselves out less than you'd like to see, or don't do things they said they'd do which affect the outcome of the fundraiser.

You find a replacement--how do you break it to the person you're replacing, especially if they've been doing it for AGES. Worse yet, what if they WON'T step down?