Thank You for your support.. It is nice to know there are some people out their that think I am doing the right thing. All I can do now is hope that once it sinks in to the other parents, that they will step up to the plate. I think if a pres and vice come along the sect. and tres. will stay with it. I know I have keep excelent records on everything done in the past. I told you about the way the PTO was when I started and I will never let some one take over and have that kind of problems. Thanks again for your suport, it realy helps...

Why can't you just hold a special meeting for elections? If you are still going to be working at the school the new board could come to you for in put. Make precise notes on the last three years: what worked, what did not, and why. If no one wants to walk up to the plate you can't say you haven't done your part.

Should I quit my job at the school, should I put off collage for another year (after all I am only 34, what will another year hurt) just because there is no one to take over for me?

No, no, no, no, NO! I'm sure it's very disappointing to you to see the prospect of your hard work going down the drain, but I also suspect someone will eventually come forward once they see you mean what you say.

I agree with everything kma said and really don't have much to add--just wanted to give you some support.

I guess I would focus your time on trying to get the Treas and Sec'y to reconsider--it will be much easier to get a Pres to come forward if there are some other officers also willing to serve.

You should in NO way feel guilty, as hard as that may be to do. You are doing nothing wrong, and as far as I'm concerned the other parents should be ashamed of themselves. You are a VOLUNTEER. On the positive spin you should be flattered they feel only you can do such a great job! BUT--have these people lost their minds? Think about it--they actually want to bully you into staying and putting your life below their self-interests. What makes them so much more important than you?

Is there ANYONE you can think of that you could cultivate and train to step in? Can the secretary and treasurer think of ANYONE they could work with? (Though after hearing how you've been treated I can see why they wouldn't want to work with any of the parents)! Maybe it's just a communication breakdown--let people know you're not abandoning the PTO--that you're willing to train and help as a consultant.

Try not to let this get you down for too long--I know it's hard to do--you need to do what you need to do for you and your family. The ones screaming at you and trying to guilt you into staying aren't worth losing sleep over. You are not doing anything wrong. THEY are--when someone doesn't take "no" for an answer they're trying to control you. These people, as misguided as they are, don't OWN you. If the PTO is so important, why aren't THEY offering to help?

Keep your chin up--I hope you get through this without too much grief!

I am very blue.... It looks like we are going to lose our PTO.... I am not sure what to do....

Three years ago, the school came to me and asked me to run for office. Our PTO was in alot of trouble the pres. and vice did not get along and they did not cair who knew it, every PTO event was like being in the middle of world war 3. I took the presidents job. It took alot of time for our pto to build the trust and membership up, but we did it, (A team Effort). This past year was one of the best our PTO ever seen. We had a great vice president who was looking forward to taking the president slot next year. Her and I became great friends and worked every event as a team. We were preparied for next year, She was fully trained and had great ideas for her term as president and I was looking forward to steping down. I took a job at the school as a teachers aid, and have made plans to go back to collage next year. Every thing was going along so great untill, her family had a problem, now she has to go to work full time and will not be able to do PTO next year, because she had to backed out the sect. and tres. for next year quit. Now we have no PTO board members, I have put out pleas for the past month no one has came forward. At our last pto night, I had to tell the parents that next year the school will not have a PTO. The parents are outraged, they started yelling at me demanding I stay for another year, I have been receving phone call at home demanding to know how I could walk away but not one of them would take a office. I feel so bad I have put every ounc of my self into the school and the pto. I put my collage off for three years and I gave up my dreams for this school. I dont want to leave this way, but what can I do, put my life on hold for a nother year and then what will happen, will any thing change or will I be sitting her next April writing the same letter over. I told my self I would do the best job I could for the children at the school, I would work hard to train my vice president to take over for me, and when she was in office I would suport her as president. I did my job, why should I be made to feel guilty... :confused: Please don't get me wrong I love this school, teacher, staff and the kids. I am looking forward to starting work next year as a teacher aid, and some day I hope to be a teacher at this school but I can't do it all,
Am I being fair? Should I quit my job at the school, should I put off collage for another year (after all I am only 34, what will another year hurt) just because there is no one to take over for me?