Do you have bylaws? YOu make see if there is decriptions of your duties along with her's in the bylaws. Who gets to vote for officer's. Hey all's fair in love and war. Get on the phone and get those parents there to vote you in. DO what you have to do to get her out of office. Just my opinion.

Well, K.C.,
She did decide to run again and I don't know what to do. I did get one parent to complain, but I really think it did no good. Our principal is in his first year here and I don't know if he thinks this is normal, but he didn't seem to do anything about it. I do have many parents and teachers who say they will nominate me and vote for me but I don't know if it is enough. She has now taken my newsletter away also. All I have left to do is the minutes of the meetings and she came up with this new idea to write the whole meeting up before hand and hand out the papers to people. I am lost and confused and I don't know how to handle this. Anybody who has a clue, I would be happy to hear from!!

So please correct me if I read your post wrong 'mykidscount' when the tough rough; kitchen gets too hot; etc get out or get the bad seed out... I feel because I hung in there and showed the parents I wasn't gping to just walk away I was making a statement. My kids were more supportive and THANKED ME for doing all I have been doing! Sad part, my oldest daughter won't answer the phone if the ID comes up certain parents names.

I never walked away from a bully as a teenager and not going to start now! Why give them that much more power over me?

If I read your post wrong I'm sorry but there is away for 'Scooby Doo' to handle this without throwing in the towel.

You shouldn't have to sit back and take somebody's crap for 6 mos. or 6 days. The problem with a lot of PTO's is once you get a over-bearing person in office and they seize control it is hard for other parents to stand up and put a stop to the nonsense. Remember parents, we are NOT teenagers anymore. We don't have to fall victim to the "clics" and the "he said" "she said" or back stabbing that we had to endure as adolescences. We are full grown individuals with children of our own. They expect us to protect them and do whatever we can to make their life (including their school) a fun, loving and nurturing environment. They see and hear a lot more than we think they do. Stand up and show the children they are worth fighting for. Vote the president out and seize control of your PTO before it is too late. A lot of potential volunters may be discouraged by internal discourse and contempt. Have an off- site meeting and plan a course of action. Make a difference. That's why you got involved in the first place. As my husband would say "What is the President going to do ? Take away your birthday ?" No - the Pres isn't in charge unless you permit it. GOOD LUCK !!!!!!!!

<blockquote>quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by &lt;ScoobyDoo&gt;:
Hi! I am having yet another problem with our new President. She has managed to offend the only two parents that come to our PTO meetings or volunteer for anything for that matter. How do I handle this situation?? I have the parents calling me, or stopping me at the school to complain. She treats me worse than she does them. She has this little click with the treasurer and the past president, from 3 years ago. They basically feel it is their job to tell people what to do regardless of whether they are rudely interupting a conversation between them and a teacher. They told one parent she had to clean out the popcorn machine that the vice-president used the night before, and it was ten minutes before school was to let out. The parent had been there all afternoon to volunteer for the santa shop.She called me later to complain. (I wasn't there when it happened.) She has informed everyone that she won't be president next year, and the treasurer is moving away. They basically have told me in private that they don't care who they tick off as long as the stuff they need to get done gets done because they won't be here next year. Well, I have been told by many parents that they want me to be president next year and will nominate me, which is the only reason I am taking their stuff. How do I tactfully deal with this situation?? I still have 6 monthes of them being on the board?? We already have no parents coming to the meetings, most of their reasons are because of the president and treasurer. Help!!! :confused: <hr></blockquote>

I am proud to tell you I survived the Treasurer from last year telling me my opinon as the Secretary ment nothing to her and I should just shut up....for some odd reason I wiped my tears and stayed, this year I am the President and funny thing, I sure have better relationships with the entire school than she ever did!

We are here for you, DO tell these parents 'I will say Yes if you nominate me but I will also need you next year'! Is there a way to turn this around? Useing your sense of humor, without getting gossipy? After my meeting from hell, the VP asked if I was OK and the first thing I could say was "I feel bad for her kids. They live with all that anger and yuck!" You know lemons into lemon-aide!
I can't see what the Principal can do about 2 parents that have an aditude problem....mine told me to hang in there and gave me a hug! That is THE LAST thing they want to do is get in the middle of ......but if the VOLUNTEERS complain about the way THEY have been treated THAT my friend (I have learned) is a new twist!! Alot more can be done if parents giving their time are treated like ...... you get the picture! I highly recommend that!

Please hang in there... sounds like you have an awsome team of parents that will keep you strong- keep them strong, have them inform the Principal about the way they are being treated. Rome and New York were not built in a day by a PTO President!
Please let us know how your doing!!

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