Lisa, you need to step back and breathe....I agree they treated you like .....crud (trying to keep it rated "G") and you want what any rational adult would want. I'm wondering if this just wouldn't bee a good time to step back, let your husband do what he is doing but the more YOU talk the more it will look like a "I was hurt and they are mean."

Okay, your kids just came home to tell you that "Johnny" said they took his kite and flew it into the old oak around the corner but they were with "Johnny"'s brother playing. "Johnny" and aother kids ruined the kite but "Johnny" has already told his Mom on them and his brother is trying to tell their Mom different you get a phone call....what do you do....Lisa, this is the same situation but now we are adults....(you can say that but I can't ) Think of what you would want your kids to do and think how you can work this out for yourself.

Meantime, focus your energy with the teachers you feel comfortable helping, for yourself, away from the PTO. I am honestly enjoying my self impossed break after four years.

Hang in there, you are the stronger person here and know the higher road.

I totally agree that it has become just a TO. We have 11 positions. 4 are teachers, 1 is the principal, 2 are paras, 1 never shows up(tried to resign, but since she doesn't make waves, was urged to stay for her vote), 1 is a parent who is butt-kissing her way up the chain of command and now the new one. They have a few open positions.

We have gone to the district. They say they will listen to us, but then don't help. They say that they can't get involved. We have threatened to sue for slander.

My husband will make sure that the parents know what is going on. He has a lot more tact than I do. That and I can't even walk into the building anymore without feeling defensive.

God, I need someone to help me. The reality of it is just now hitting me.

{{{Lisa}}}

First of all, I am so sorry that this happened to you. I can't even imagine the humiliation! I agree that the parents should know about the theft. I just don't know how to begin to approach this delicate situation.

Exactly what staff is involved? Are they just teachers, or does the principal hold an key position on the board? It sounds like your PTO is becoming simply a TO. Do you think going to the school board might help? I know they don't have much control over voluntary organizations, but when school staff wrongly accuse (or make assumptions against) a parent of theft then fail to apologize upon learning they were wrong, they most certainly DO have control.

I certainly wouldn't let this slide and fade into the woodwork. It can and should be addressed. It was so easy when I was more aggressive, but it only made more trouble for myself in the end. I've learned to stand firm and be assertive, though.

Good luck with this horrible situation, Lisa. Hang in there, and let us know what becomes of it all!

Sheila

I wrote on here a few months ago that our Santa Shop had experienced a theft over the weekend. Then a month later someone apparently stole some items from the garage sale donations. The board thought that the only person who could have done that was me since I was the fundraiser chairperson. I completly denied it but was kicked out.

I found out this week that the stolen items from Santa Shop have been recovered.

Apparently the board has gone inward. I mean that they talk to noone and let noone know what is going on. I had a lot of support in that school. Most of them had no idea what had happened to me. They are completely disgusted with the board. I feel that I was kicked out because I voted against something that the rest of them wanted. I should tell you that the rest of the board consists of staff members.

I was going to run for president, but feel that I won't win because of this. The only people that vote are the staff.

The parents were not notified of the theft. My husband feels that they have a right to know. Also that I was wrongly accused and that the stuff was recovered.

PTO has been my life for 4 years. This was a devastating blow to me. I was humiliated. I am not a thief and would never steal. How do I get my good name, my position, and my joy in this back?

I just found out that they replaced me with someone that I know will go along with whatever they want. This parent has never come to meetings or been involed in any other way until now. I feel that they got her just so they would have a lap dog to kick around.

I want an apology and my position back. How do I go about it????????