I'm glad things were resolved in a way you could live with. It's also nice to know that even though you thought they had blown you off, they had, in fact, investigated further and came to an agreeable compromise. I'm happy for you AND for them. It would sure have been a loss for them if they hadn't followed through.

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Thanks for the welcome, MetzyMom. I am very glad to be here. I didn't take offense at all. It helps to see other points of view (however, in a way, I was hoping someone would side with me though )

I do have something to share. We had a PTO meeting tonight. Our principal was there and he said he wanted to talk with me after the meeting. I thought...'Oh great, now what??' After the meeting he said that he, the superintendent, and the 2 sponsors met to discuss my complaint. It was agreed that from now on when a letter is sent out, only staff members will sign the letter. The S.C. officers will still have the deciding factor in the matter but they will not be signing the letter.

I felt better that my concern wasn't ignored. They aren't able to take back my son's letter and I really am not asking for that. I think it would rub it in if they handed him a revised letter (He doesn't need to be reminded of what happened, he already knows). This day definitely ended on a happy note. I wanted to let you all know the outcome. I didn't quite expect it to happen so fast.

Now, I can concentrate on some other discussions on this board. The topics look interesting!! [img]smile.gif[/img] [img]smile.gif[/img] [img]smile.gif[/img]

We're glad to have you. You raised some interesting and thought provoking issues. I hope you aren't angry with my opinions or responses. The great thing about this board is while we may not always agree, we know that everyone cares and that we are all in this together.

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Hi MetzyMom, I have wondered how much my obsession comes across to my son. I have tried to deal with this when he is not around but, you know kids, they can pick up on things. I want him to know I will stand behind him, confusing issue to try when you are also trying to support your school and your son is the offender. He is really not a bad kid, just 'over zealous' shall I say....like many 5th grade boys. Actually the teacher complimented on how he is improving and maturing since the beginning of the school year. Music to a mom's ears!! [img]smile.gif[/img]

I probably won't go much further on this issue. Probably there was more healing in just venting my thoughts on paper by writing the letter. It definitely made me feel better.

I like your idea of meeting with the S.C. sponsors. Its hard to separate in concept this organization from the school.

I am glad I found this discussion board. I would like to take some time and visit other discussions and gain a little more insight on PTO. I have only attended 2 meetings since beginning of the school year. Bear with me as I familiarize myself with this site. I have a lot of learning. [img]smile.gif[/img]

While I agree that most things should be spelled out, especially for children, I must say that it sounds like your SC is doing things on the cuff... sort of like we all do things in life... And isn't that what SC is doing? Teaching kids what life is really like?

Fact is, the advisors should be steering the children, especially now that something like this has happened, towards putting things down in black and white. But then one could argue it is up to the kids in the SC to do this... and unless there have been problems before, they may not see the need.

Instead of talking to the principal, couldn't you set up a meeting with the SC Advisors? Tell them your point of view and see if some sort of compromise can be reached.

I also think your principal is wrong. Each work place, each district, each school, hell- even the military has a 'how-to' book... and yes, some of them are quite large...lol...(hands extended). SC should be no different... but again, it's up to the SC itself to do this, and they may decide against it.

I applaud your defending your child (God knows I would too), but be careful as to what kind of example you set for him from here on out. You don't want to harp (sorry for the brash word) on 'how they done you wrong'. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, put a smile on, say Lesson Learned and move on. Sometimes it is just the way to do it... speaking off the cuff...

Good Luck!

Thanks Michele B. I totally agree. I believe they need to have the guidelines written out, maybe along with a job description. When I suggested that to the principal, he brushed the idea aside saying if they did that for every thing, that they would have a huge policy book (gesturing wide with his hands). My main point in my letters is the fact they need to have something in writing. What they have now is just a description of what the S.C. does, i.e., activities, fundraisers, a very brief description of what the S.C. is all about. Its not very complete. I am surprised about this because they have had a S.C for many years, I would think they would have it detailed better.